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Praise, rewards, routines and house rules

Social development during puberty

 I think the social environment has been the biggest change for the world in which our children are growing up. The Internet and Social media expose our children to a world stage that we never experienced as youths. Through the ages parents have complained about their children’s clothes, choice of music and exposure to drugs, alcohol...
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Love Languages 5 of 5 – Acts of Service

Acts of service This may sound strange to you, as parents we need to care for children anyway. But  children will often remember as adults the small things their parents did on certain occasions. The way your mother packed your lunchbox or what she did for your birthday. Children also learn through our acts of service...
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Love Languages 4 of 5 – Gifts

Gifts Gifts are only gifts when they were not earned. If you give something as a reward it is not a gift but encouragement. Gifts are unexpected. Gifts are also something that is desired. Most meaningful gifts are often also not bought. By making some effort to create something it may sometimes mean a lot more...
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Love Languages 3 of 5 – Quality Time

Quality time Quality time is the most demanding love language of all five. This means undivided attention focused solely on one person. While children are small and they need a lot of physical care, they receive quite a lot of undivided attention. As they grow older and you have more than one child it becomes more...
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Love Languages 2 of 5 – Words of Affirmation

Words of affirmation According to Chapman and Campbell there are four categories to consider.  
  • Words of Endearment
This implies the non-verbal of communication. Have you ever said ‘it is not what you say but how you say it’ that makes the difference? In communication you hear only about 20% of the verbal content the rest you understand...
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Love Languages 1 of 5 – Physical Touch

WHAT ALL CHILDREN NEED  “Attentive care fosters self regard, self protection and self control. Having one's needs met fosters a view of the world as responsive and caring, which in turn leads to self regulation and a sense of equilibrium and well being.” (Anne Gearity) All children need a safe responsive environment, where they will feel protected...
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You are one of the inner voices in your child’s head.

A few years ago I developed a group program for children between 8years and 14 years old to help them learn social skills and emotional regulation. One session we did on social skills was to do a creative painting session with some positive and negative feedback loops. The purpose was for the children to understand how...
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